There must be something in the water that has no side effects on "some men" Several times in the past few days, I have witnessed the ruling of fathers by their sons. Now, I am the first to say that I do let my son get away with some things because kids have to grow and stretch their boundaries. But, it's something totally different when you son is going to tell you what he is not going to do, that you can't make him do it, and then ignore you while you are talking to him and he answers you by saying "what"
I know as a child, that all it took was this certain look from the adult in the house. It didn't have to be mom or dad - any adult would do. I grew up when the neighbor beat your behind because of what you did and then you got another whipping when your parents got home.
Some dads today let the boy do WHATEVER they want, say WHATEVER they want - and everything is cool. I heard one man say after his boy kicked my son in the stomach on the first day they met each other - "they are just boys being boys" So, I kindly told my boy in front of this father - "if he kicks, hits, bumps or touches you in any way - beat him up" I then turned to the other father and said - afterall - they're just boys being boys, and walked away.
I can be at church and see boys climbing on things - and everyone says something to the boys except for his father. I can be at scouts and one boy will hit another in front of his parent - and hear the parent say - was that an accident or did you do it on purpose? On purpose my foot!!!! That kid just intentionally swung a stick and hit someone, drew blood, laughed and you ask was it an accident. Who is ruling the coop here - the chicks or the rooster?
Just today - I was in WalMart and a boy who should have been in school, told his father "if you don't get it for me, I will tell mom that you talked to that lady over there. You know she will believe me - you did it before" The man never looked at the woman while I was in the store, but the kid had the upper hand, and idiot man fell for it. I stood there with my mouth wide open. He saw me and said - he will do it. Being bold, I asked if he had a cell phone. He did. I told him to call his wife and tell her what the brat was doing and I would vouch for him and tell her what I witnessed. The call was made and the kid was mad because he didn't get his touch screen mp3 - too bad.
Why is that we allow our children to be so disobedient, disrespectful, deceitful, manipulative and the list goes on? If we are raising and training up our children in the fear of the Lord and to honor and respect us as parents - we wouldn't be raising Chucky, Freddie Crooger, and the seed of satan. We have allowed the fear of a phone call to the police stop up from parenting our children. We have given the right to parent over to the schools instead of partnering with them, and we fear Child Services showing up at the door.
Look, when you have done your best to raise them, and they don't want to do what's right - there's the door. If you want to go through your Prodigal Son experience - be my guest. I will love you, pray for you, encourage you. I am not your friend from the playground, I am not your buddy from down the street - I AM DAD. We can be friends later. I have to raise you to survive in this world.
These reality shows have our children thinking that life is one big check/credit card/ATM/cash in a barrel - they are not entitled to have anything expect to have their needs provided for. All of the rest of the things are bonuses for GOOD behavior and GOOD grades,etc.
These boys have to grow up and become the men who lead this world. If they don't know consequences ( the result of an action - good or bad) they will be lost forever.
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